17 weeks 'holiday'

My 16 weeks maternity leave is coming to an end soon. How time flies when u re submerged in blissfulness! Yes its very tiring mentally n physically cos I hv only abt 5hrs of sleep every day n no caffine allowed since Im on breastfeeding. I enjoyed the time spent caring for my little ones n watching them crossing their every milestone more than anything else. I suppose this is a rare opportunity for me to get 'close and personal' with my kids for this long.

Although Im spending most of my time (its 24hrs) taking care of Kayleen (well, to be fair the leave I gotten in a way “originated” from her), I tried to squeeze time for my other two kids. I will try to cook lunch for Trenyce n bath her after she returned from school. I tried to play with Kaden as his bathing n meal times will either clash with Kayleen or Trenyce. All these done amidst my very bz bf schedule cos I need to express bm every 4hrly if possible. Honestly, Im v thankful for the 16weeks ml given by govt (additional week is from my annual leave),its really nice to hv these much time to care for our bb. Babies are usually more settled in their 3rd or 4th mth. Hence my mind is more at ease when I returned to office or rather Im v ready to return to work. The only thing is I cant bear to part with my little one. I can really feel the big difference as I wasnt able to spend as much time with my two elder kids hence I got v excited when I was the first to witness kayleen‘s milestones like im a brand new mother all over again. I saw kayleen grabbing things, screaming in excitement, ‘answering’ me when I talked to her, turning herself…well, all these would not have been possible if Im away at work. Oh! Sound like I may try for a fourth one..hahah...well, no not yet! haha...

The new confinement auntie has arrived

After suffering for another 3 days without the confinement auntie, she had finally arrived yesterday noon. She looked like she's in mid fifities so I was quite surprised when she told me she was approaching 60yo. Surprised not bcos she didnt look that old but the agency had told me that their aunties are betw ages of 35 to 58. So have I been cheated??? I duno and I dun wish to change anymore auntie. It was too much of a drama for me and Kaden to receive a fourth auntie within a week. Besides I am only left with 2 weeks of confinement, so if I am to change another auntie again, how many more days do I need her service?

The very first meal she cooked, I had a dish of red wine chicken meat uncooked for my dinner. I almost vomitted. I am eating semi-cooked chicken meat. Yucks. Other than that, her attitude seems ok. I continue to observe her today. I finally understand why some people do not want to employ confinement aunties beyond certain age. Not being prejudiced here but if they cant help you much during your confinement then what's the point of employing her? The auntie's cooking is much better today, however, she does things very slowly until that I have to take care of Kaden myself quite a couple of times. She also cooked very slow that I had to clean Kaden myself today. Kaden had pooed and I didnt know when auntie will finish her cooking. By the time she finished her cooking, Kaden's backside might have rashes growing all over already so I decided to clean him myself rather than wait for her. When I cleaned Kaden, I observed some rashes on his lower body. I hope she has not forgotten certain steps of cleaning the baby and skipped it completely. Then I heard another quite scary thing from MIL this morning that auntie had told her her eye sight and hearing is catching up with her age. She cant hear well on one of her ears......MIL told me to watch out on Kaden myself in case she didnt hear him crying. Alamak! Guess, I wont have much time to rest for a couple of days more till I get the hang of this new auntie.

My confinement auntie has left!

Never did I expect such things to happen on me. My confinement auntie has to leave halfway before she completes the full month for me. Her family called. Her mother-in-law is very ill and is hospitalised, and may not be able to get through the ordeal so she has to hurry back. I cant stop her from going back to see her MIL for the last time so I let her go the very day itself. She has completed 10days of service for me. She left in such a hurry, I dont even have time to check with her on Kaden's habits. Luckily, I always wandered around to KPO a bit so its not that hard for us to capture Kaden's style.


The next hour or so, all I could do was to make as many calls I could find hoping to get another replacement. Finally, I managed to get one through recommendation from my previous confinement auntie, the very 1st auntie who did the confinement for me when I had Trenyce. Thought all will be settled once I found the replacement and just need to 'suffer' one night. Boy, how wrong am I! It was a nightmare. Her attitude was very bad. She couldnt take comments from us and insisted on her own way. She even told off my MIL when MIL, out of curiosity, told her the pail of water meant to bath Kaden was very cold! What's worst is she let Kaden cry until he lost his voice! My heart aches and so does hubby! The last straw was when she talked back to me when I asked her nicely to change Kaden's diaper as he had pooed first and put down whatever she's doing (she was marinating some meat) as my massage lady was waiting for me in the baby's room. We decided to let her go the very next day after just one day of service. She was rather surprised when I told her to go. I paid her for a day's service and her transportation. She was not satisfied with the amount that I gave her and demanded more! I was firm on my stand and refused to pay her any more than the amount I had given. She was quite mad and scolded me. I just ignored her. Normally you would expect this person to pack and go immediately right. Well, she didnt! She went to the room, sat on the floor and made calls to god knows who, then took her sweet time to keep her clothes (she washed about 3 bamboo stick of clothes in my house the very night she arrived as if she just came back from holiday) and took her bath before she left. It was already an hour later after I told her to leave.


Now I am waiting for another auntie to come. With that scary experience, we decided to pass whatever recommendations we have got and went direct to the local confinement auntie agency. Really got some phobia with this confinement auntie thingy. Crossing my fngers now.