Trenyce Jie Jie

Everyone has been asking me how is Trenyce coping with the little brother. She's generally quite ok and is very proud of being called a jiejie. She welcomes the little brother and sayang him alot too...will stroke Kaden's head and cheeks;) When she returned from school, she would shout from the door, "Kaden, Jiejie is back from school loh!" and then she would run to the brother (if Kaden is awake) and started talking to him. She will stand in front of Kaden and says "Kaden, good boy oh. Must listen to JieJie ok". Sometimes, she will say,"Kaden, when you grow big must buy toys for JieJie ok." or "Kaden, don’t cry so loud ok...you want to cry, cry little bit ok, not so loud oh". Such innocent conversations! *grins*

It is also interesting to see how she plays with him as the way she does it largely comes from us....and she imitiates very well. She will shake or squeeze the toy in front of Kaden, or trying to make some sounds using her mouth (she cant really do it so it sounds quite differently but can see her efforts in trying to imitate us to cheer the kid brother)to catch his attention. Sometimes, she will sing for him...her favouite Barney tune.

This JieJie is very kind. She will offer her help to "take care" of the kid brother when I have to do housework while Kaden is awake. She will climb up the daybed and sits besides Kaden and talks to him, "don’t be scared oh, Jiejie is here huh." and sometimes when Kaden cries, she will say "oh oh oh, don’t cry don’t cry, JieJie is here to protect you huh." She will also "run errands" for mummy when mummy needs her help to pick up a hankie or nappy cloth for the kid brother. She does it immediately upon request. Very nice JieJie.

Of course, occasionally she will throw tantrums when she cant do whatever she pleases becos of the little brother and she will say stuff like "I don’t like you, Kaden". Other than that, she is an obedient girl. Sometimes I feel sorry for her as she has to restrict her movements or gestures becos of the the arrival of Kaden. Many times, she got scolded becos of the noise she created has woken Kaden. I know she does it unintentionally as she has been so used to creating all these noise. But there were also times she purposely did something to scare the brother and got scolded from us. Like 'punching' the bed when the brother was sleeping on the bed or purposely dropped something on the floor to create some loud noise when the brother was sleeping. I think this is her way of trying to get our attention. She knows that by misbehaving, mummy and/or daddy will scold her and hence focus on her. Surprisingly, this is how little children communicate with us.

I feel its really hard on the little girl, at such young age, having to adjust herself to life with a kid brother. We cant really blame her if she cant understand especially she is now at this stage where she can "half understand and half cannot understand".

Trenyce, mummy is truly sorry for scolding you all the times...I should be more patient with you. Mummy loves you always ok *muacks*

Dear Lord, pls grant me peace so that I can care for my children with much love and patience that they truly deserved. Amen. Mood: Happy Milestone: 3 years old